No this post is not about being heartbroken, falling in love with my "knight and shining armor" or some charming prince to the rescue of his princess stuck in a dark hole or tortured by a wicked step-mother (pardon my fantasy references I'm addicted to animation movies). It's about the clarity life 's moment gives and I am hoping this will help someone out there. I have never felt this deep wild happiness in a while until today when I went alone to watch the film screening, "Crazy Stupid Love".
Crazy Stupid Love is a romantic comedy about a middle aged, faithful man Cal (Steve Carell) planning to divorce his unfaithful wife Emily (Jullianne Moore), after 25 years. He had no idea what do, telling anyone who cares about how Emily cheated with a work colleague, up to hooking up with random women to deal with his pains. They had gotten married at 17 and the 44 year-old wife felt she missed out on the fun part of life and wanted to explore. Emily blamed her actions on "women mid-life crisis", and loss of the spark that kept their relationship aglow. Also, Cal stopped putting in effort to keep the spark alive. It was a roller coaster of deep emotional hurt, and regrets. Towards the end, the couple realized that they still love each other, and came to terms with their marriage crisis. Even though they weren't sure if things will work out., they were both willing to take another shot at their marriage. I love that bit of the ending. You can draw your own conclusions after watching the movie, but here is what I think.
There are unconventional ways of tackling harsh realities of life in general. We must either choose to succeed or set ourselves, consciously or unconsciously to the path of destruction or failure. Achieving self-growth and self-development not only starts with having a healthy mind but also using simple and adaptable tools or resources in dealing with situations or life's crisis.
Sometimes you think you're "there" or where you truly wanted to be in life, but only realize you have barely begun or even fathom what it's all about. Most times you have no idea what you're even looking for, even if it stirs right at you. Some times you may find what you're looking for but never sure if it's going to work out.
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| Cal went on random dates to take back control of his life |
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| Cal and Emily at a fix on moving forward |
Life never gives us all the answers, but when you "walk" through yourself by reflecting on the past, then you're most likely to find some answers to the "what ifs" questions, to project it into your tomorrow, to enable you make better decisions. It may seem to be a daunting process, isn't life itself a process? But we have been primed to let life unfold as age, time and days passes by.
Yes, some days maybe so bad it hurts like a deep sharp cut, but there are and will always be very good days. Read Also:When Suicide it the only Option
Happy and unexpected moments of happiness is a gift. Your life is more beautiful than you think, ONLY if you DECIDE to take a deeper look at inside of your soul. If you don't know how to effectively or constructively reflect get the help of a mental health professional like a Psychologist. Always remember that it's very OK to GET HELP, or talk to someone who you feel will not be judgemental or insensitive towards your previous life's choices(career, family or relationships) or even your plans for the future.
Self love is the best gift you can give yourself and everyone around you. IT'S OK to be lost, to have all these doubts, anxieties or fears, but IT'S NOT OK NOT TO FIGHT BACK.
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